Real Friendships Are Imperfectly Perfect

Join me in a toast to real friendships! How do your friends think of you? Reflect on how you prioritise your life by reading on.

Cheers to real friendships where pretentious behaviour, unrealistic goals and narrow minded opinions are left at the door.

Do you have a group of friends where together everyone is imperfectly perfect?

When I reflect on one of my group of friends, I can see we are at different life stages, have made different life choices, live in different locations and prioritise our everyday life to different values. But one value we all share is making the time to spend with each other. When we do spend time together, we acknowledge the other priorities in our life and then pick up our conversations where we left off last.

The commonality for most of this group was attending the same boarding school thirteen years ago. Along the way we have also introduced some other like minded friends into the group. Six years ago an idea was voiced in the group to sustain these friendships by arranging an annual catch up. We picked the last weekend in June every year and accepted that each year there will be at least one person who can’t attend due to other life events. But it’s become such a special and routine weekend now that where possible, we schedule our other life commitments around attending this weekend.

What are you prioritising your life on? How will your friends remember you?

Some of my real friends where pretentious behaviour, unrealistic goals and narrow minded opinions are left at the door.

Some of the six years we have tried to relive our eighteen year old party lifestyle while in other years we have jumped into our pj’s and drank cups of tea for the night. No matter which end of the scale we are at we focus on being together. Each of us at some point are challenged with an aspect in our life. Each of us share a different perspective and make different life choices. None of us are perfect but together we are real to each other which I believe is imperfectly perfect.

So I ask you now……..

What are you prioritising your life on?

How will your friends remember you?

In five years time, will you look back and realise you have forgotten to dedicate time to your friends? Are you prioritising time to the friends that know the good, the bad and the ugly sides of you and still loves you unconditionally? Or will you be content in knowing you have spread yourself thinly across a wider group of relationship that are not real?    

Grab your device or your pen and paper and write down your top 5 values in life. The top five things that make you who you are, that you enjoy, that motivate you, that gives you that feeling of ahhhh this is one of the great gifts in life. Then refer to your calendar and reflect on what you spend your time doing. Do these activities reflect your values or is it time to alter your lifestyle and prioritise what is important that little bit more?  

About the author

Lisa Mangelsdorf

I confess that I work to live rather than live to work. But when I can combine my passions into my work, I work best. This blog brings together discussions about one of my passions which is connecting people. I endeavour to fight the norm by chasing flexible working options and change seekers, hence my involvement with this blog. I'm fortunate to be connected with a global team at GAIA Insights. Retaining Gen Y within the workforce is an issue for most businesses across the globe. For help contact us because we know EXACTLY what they want from the workplace and we can help your business retain that key talent.

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